We are at the wrap-up of this series and of this year 2020. whoop whoop! THANK YOU JESUS! Hopefully at this point the phrase ‘faulty corner’ makes some sense, and you have been able to evaluate from the last two post and reflect on if you are a resident in the faulty corner, just like I was. Like I mentioned in the first blog post of this series, there are a few things that put us in a faulty corner and I have touched upon ‘comparison’ and ‘low self-esteem’ and a little bit on ‘pride’, and now I will be wrapping up with a two more obvious ones.
Similar to pride, is something called superiority complex. Google, our best friend, defines it as “a behavior that suggests a person believes they’re somehow superior to others, with an exaggerated opinion of self, and may believe their abilities and achievements surpass those of others£. This doesnt sound all that bad, apart from the fact that you are literally walking the earth, and thinking you are some type of god, and that people are beneath you. Okay it sounds bad now.
I don’t think there is a way around not seeing flaws in people and everyone else but yourself when you have erroneously allowed yourself to believe that you are above all else. Thankfully I don’t know anyone that exhibit this attitude, tbh I wouldn’t last 2 secs around such person. My whole spirit and soul would be in conflict and distress. Obviously there are instances where we could feel superior in certain things, and i’m not saying that this means such person has a complex, but it is important to always try to be humbly confident. There is probably someone better at whatever it is out there in the 7.5 billion of us on this planet, so sekkle a little.
A opposite end of this would be inferiority complex, which is again defined by our best friend as people with an “unrealistic intense feelings of inadequacy, often resulting the belief that one is in some way deficient, or inferior, to others”. Which in my opinion is equally as bad, although yes you may be blinded to the flaws of others, but it is at the expense of only seeing the flaws in yourself. Constantly feeling inadequate and less is something that would make living difficult in itself, and it would actually help you get a mortgage in the faulty corner, actually faulty mansion, not a corner anymore. In this mansion, there would be separate rooms for low self-esteem, self-hate, comparison and many negative emotions and cognitions.
Sadly, these complexes are not just a feeling or a mood, it is a total psychological belief system that would need counselling and external help to get better. It isn’t something to wish on anyone.
To wrap up the year 2020. It been a whole year of learning and growing, and having my skin out in the sun, and re-learning and re-embracing… and all of that good stuff.
It has definitely been a tough year for myself and many others, but I am so grateful to God that I didn’t got through this whole year of lock downs and pandemics when I was wallowing in self hate, depression, anxiety and low self esteem, it would have been an even tougher year. For those going through any of these, God is strength and firm foundation, he has your back, and 2021 will be a better year for us all mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.
Psalms 34:18 GNT The lord is near those who are discouraged; he saves those tho have lost all hope. NIV The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those that are crushed in spirit.
In 2020, I will be leaving behind by the grace of God, comparison, low self-esteem, feelings of inadequacy, anxiety, worry, not trusting God, procrastination, overthinking and every other many things that made 2020 not as productive as it could have been.
In 2021 I am praying for grace, better mental and physical health, JOY, PEACE, LOVE, HOPE, progress, success, consistency, confidence, humility, trust and more of God and His nature.
Aiming for onwards and upwards and definitely more consistency in 2021. AMEN!
Here’s a pic to remind you that I am still the one and only Speckled lamb.